Pittsburgh Matchmakers | How to Choose Between Two Men
Hey, it’s a very difficult problem, figuring out how to choose between two guys! Some women don’t even have one man to “choose” from, so you’re a very lucky woman because you have options.
The conundrum that dating presents is that you will have to talk to several guys at the same time. The idea is that you don’t get too emotionally attached to one because you need to assume he’s also dating other people.
The problem with dating is: What happens when you end up caring for two of them? You’re left with a very hard choice because, of course, you don’t look forward to hurting anyone.
Today, our Pittsburgh matchmakers are going to help you choose between two guys to ensure you pick the one who’s better suited for you.
- Figure out what you like about each man.
We’re guessing you’ve gotten to the point where you feel like you’re falling in love with both guys. The attraction is more than physical. So, yes, Dave is a true gentleman, while Mike is sweet and romantic.
You need to make a list of all their positive attributes and compare them to each other. Having a list will help you see who has better qualities and what you like most about each guy.
The list can follow suit to this:
- Financially stable
- Makes me laugh
- Makes me feel secure
- We have many things in common
- Makes me be a better person
- Introduces me to new things in life
- We have amazing chemistry
- Makes me feel great
This is the list we’re talking about. Just compare them to each other and see who’s better for you and your future.
- Who is ready for a meaningful relationship?
Naturally, you’re trying to figure out who will be your next boyfriend. You are ready to start a relationship and need to be with a guy who’s ready for that as well. You need to figure out who is ready for the next step, and you can do this by checking out their actions and what they’re saying.
Does either man talk about the future?
Has either called you his girlfriend?
Does either still have his online profile active?
Do you spend significant quality time with either man, or does it seem to be centered around sex?
If you have had that discussion, you probably have a better idea of what he’s looking for. But how well does it align with what you want? You may be looking for something long-term, but, for example, does he want kids while you don’t? Does he have a job transfer looming over his head? These are all things to take into consideration as you figure out who you’re going to choose.
- Who fits better with my wish list?
If you’ve made a list of what you want in a man, pull it out and read it. Read it twice: once with each man in your mind. Now write out which qualities each man has from your wish list, and which ones he doesn’t. For the ones he doesn’t, are those major relationship deal breakers?
For example, maybe your list says you want someone who has all his hair, but Mike has thinning hair. Is that a major deal breaker? We don’t think so.
Which of the men meet more of your wish list criteria? That’s the guy you choose.
We wish you the best of luck in choosing the guy who’s right for you. If you’re not so lucky and don’t have time to look for quality men on your own, it’s time to let our expert matchmakers lend you a helping hand.
If you’re single and ready to find true love, contact our Pittsburgh matchmakers today. Let us do the searching and screening for you. Let us introduce you to quality single men in Pittsburgh who fit your wish list!
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